Am I over-reacting??

Ok...let me see if I can explain this....
Wait, first...This regards a post I read at Parenthood.com, where I am a host on the discussion boards. I cannot "vent" about this there, as it is unbecoming of a host....that's also the reason I cannot actually reply to the original post. Anywho...
A member posted that she is a founder of a disscusion board and new organization for woman who have had tubal ligations. Apparently, the women can go there for support or for information on getting their tubes "untied." Actually, I think that's the biggest focus of the group, tubal ligation reversals. Anywho...she posted last night that she had a newer member come to the group for support after having her tubes tied. She was really not sure that she made the right choice and was hoping the group could help her come to terms with her decision. The PH member said this woman had her tubes tied aafter having a little boy, who was now 4 months old. I couldn't believe that she would do that after one baby, but figured she had a reason, medical or something.
The baby died of SIDS. The mom was first relieved that she had her tubes tied because she couldn't imagine bringing another child into the world to worry about that again (or something like that)....but the more she thinks about it, she thinks she was wrong and would like to have the chance to have another baby...but they can't afford the reversal surgery. Here's the thing that bugs me...the PH member is asking for fundraising ideas so they can raise money for this woman's surgery! No, wait....I wasn't bothered until I read the little guy's obit. First I thought, well yeah, she had one baby and for whatever reason chose to stop....but now this happened, so she SHOULD get to try again! Then I read the obit....they have 4 other kids!!! Or maybe three....either way, more than just the one that died! No way would I donate for that!! Be happy that you have other children! With that in mind, I should ask people to donate money so Hubby can afford to get his swimmers checked, you know since I miscarried and all (BTW...we haven't told the parents...don't know why, but we haven't....so shhhhhh ;) ).
All I kept thinking is that there are SO many couples out there who cannot have children, or who need help having children. And it's not just "old" couples, but younger couples too. Why not donate that money to RESOLVE or a local infertility clinic? Help others enjoy the wonders of being parents and be grateful for the family that you have......
Ok...that's my vent/rant. I suppose I should go cloister myself somewhere and work on my paper. Why am I not motivated?? I start my last writing class in 2 weeks and I am SUPPOSED to have the bulk of this done!!! AHHHHH!!!!